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Are You Gonna Give in?

By Raphael | In Motivation, Nutrition | on February 6, 2013

Diggin’ out the fat clothes in the back of the closet is never a fun thing to do. So maybe you’re finally sick of it and you now realize it’s time. You have your nutrition plan and your workout and you’re all set to start blasting the fat into oblivion. And now you begin…only to put on the brakes because you’re forgetting something. Something really important.

You’re forgetting that there’s going to be a ton of road blocks on this journey.  I encourage you to create a list of every possible nuisance, stress, well-meaning person, idiotic person and situation that will attempt to get in your way. Then write down how you’re going to rise above these situations and saboteurs. By the way, one road block is always going to be you.

To get you started, here are 3 roadblock situations that, at some point, will stare you down in your quest to lose fat and get fit.

You’ve Lost Enough Weight — Live a Little!
Be forewarned you will hear this from co-workers, friends and family. It happens to everyone, and it usually happens before you reach your goal weight. You will second-guess yourself when you hear this comment; you will question whether you can go off your plan; and you will have serious doubts when you first start hearing this.

In work situations there will be happy hours, office donuts and birthdays, all of which include food and drink that, consumed on a regular basis, will not be in your best interest.  Eating cake and/or drinking has nothing to do with wishing your co-worker a happy birthday or enjoying the celebration. Easier said than done, though, because you’ll feel the pressure, and people like to work in gangs, so you may get verbally ganged up on. “C’mon, live a little! You’ve lost enough weight! Don’t you want to celebrate?!” When in doubt, the gang will guilt-trip you.

No need to get defensive with people. Just calmly tell them you have a goal and fully intend to meet that goal, but you definitely want to be part of the celebration. And once you’ve made your point, there is absolutely no reason to continue to defend it.  The bottom line is it’s your life, and you should be the one who determines when you eat, what you eat, where you eat and how much you eat. Empower yourself with that fact.

I’ve been on the run all day, and I have to get to an appointment. All I have time for is fast food. OMG what do I do?
Life happens, and we have to be ready. The most important thing is never to panic. Don’t walk in there thinking you’ve blown it, so you “may as well have a triple-decker bacon cheeseburger, large fries and a root beer float.” No, you haven’t blown it. You’re in a fast-food restaurant, and you walk in with the mindset that you’ll look at the menu and ask, “What are the healthiest options that I can choose?” That’s your starting point. A lot of fast-food restaurants are adding healthier meals and caloric information to their menus because the public is wising up and asking for them. So recognize that eating at a fast-food restaurant does not always equal “failure.”

The take-home point is that you can work within the parameters of any situation. The more you plan and prepare, the better, but there will be times when your only option is to make the best choice in that moment. Acknowledge that moment may not be so easy, and those unhealthy, fattening menu choices may scream at you to devour them. Having those feelings alone does not make you weak — we’ve all been there; those fries smell great! So be ready, because at some point, it will happen. A lifetime of success is more than just making wise choices; it’s about being ready for the temptations. That’s half the battle.

Celebrate…let’s eat!
Family celebrations are another grueling time for people on a weight-loss journey. A lot of people tend to worry about feeling deprived as they stare at all the delicious food on the family’s table, and they resist every urge to enjoy. But that approach doesn’t work. It’s perfectly fine and encouraged to enjoy special-occasion meals, but it doesn’t mean you have to load your plate with so much food that it reaches the top of your head. You know when you’ve got too much on that plate.

I recommend having a plan before you sit down to the meal. Tell yourself you’re allowed to have some of everything you want (including dessert), but that you’re not going to overfill your plate, have seconds or get overly bloated. Then don’t think about it again. Just put it into action and enjoy your food and the company of family and friends.

Oh, but we’re talking about family time now, and family time can sometimes be all about the G word – GUILT. Now you’re at risk for hearing comments like, “That’s all you’re having? It’s your favorite!” or “I made it just for you!” I know it’s not easy, particularly the first few times and particularly if Mom is saying it, but calmly and confidently practice saying, “No thank you, I’ve had plenty,” or “That’s so thoughtful of you, thank you. It really is delicious.”

Your two take-away messages: This is so much more than about diet and exercise. Stuff is going to happen in life, and you must be ready for it. And, people are going to try and get in your head during your weight-loss journey. So never lose sight of your ultimate goal and why you want that goal.

Now I’d like to hear from you. Share with me what other situations or people will get in your way, and how you’re going to handle it.


6 Comments to "Are You Gonna Give in?"

  • Justin says:

    February 7, 2013 at 5:35 am - Reply

    Amen! I had everyone of those happen to me.

  • Raphael
    Raphael says:

    February 7, 2013 at 6:29 am - Reply

    Hey Justin, it’s really so true. They will happen to everyone. Thanks for reading the blog!

  • Michael says:

    February 7, 2013 at 11:35 am - Reply

    100% on the button Raphael.
    It not just a question of diet, its not just a question of exercise, its a question of “mind over matter”.
    The power of a determined and made up mind is awesome –
    persistenmce pays off.
    You are what you think you are!

  • Gwen Lawrence says:

    February 7, 2013 at 1:34 pm - Reply

    People bring food to your home and say lets put the kettle on and have a cup of tea and some of the cake I brought. I always feel trapped. I can throw the left overs out but find it difficult while they are there.

  • Raphael
    Raphael says:

    February 7, 2013 at 2:21 pm - Reply

    Michael, well said! I really like what you wrote. Thanks for reading and posting.

  • Raphael
    Raphael says:

    February 7, 2013 at 2:24 pm - Reply

    Gwen, have you tried just telling them that you’re in the process of losing weight and it’s just so very important to you now? What would be the worst that could happen if you said that?

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